We’re all born with the same basic neurology. Our ability to do anything in life, whether it’s swimming the length of a pool, cooking a meal, or reading a book, depends on how we control our nervous system. So, much of NLP is devoted to learning how to think more effectively and communicate more effectively with yourself and others.
NLP believes that most of our behavior is learnt, for example you don’t see small babies with phobias of flying or self esteem issues. We learn our behaviour from our experiences and the people around us as we grow up, and this programs our brain to perceive things and to react to the world in a certain way. NLP allows you to understand what these programs are, and then reprogram them. Because our behaviour is learnt, we are able to unlearn it!
Your brain stores all it’s experiences as pictures, sounds and feelings, if you change how your brain recognizes these experiences you can change how you respond to them. Your unconscious mind does not know the difference between what is real and what happens in your head. This means your imagination is always more powerful than your willpower. Richard Bandler himself, professes that NLP is not just about therapy. It is about education and teaching people to run their own brains.
To many people the range of applications for NLP is surprising. It seems strange that the same process can help you relate better to your loved ones, enhance your professional performance, improve your golf or tennis score, and enable you to teach your child to spell or study. When you become acquainted with this ‘technology’, there are no limits to the range of applications for NLP or the areas in your life which can benefit.
Think about it. If you FEEL powerful, then you act powerfully. If you feel sad, then you act sadly. Your feelings define how you operate in the world. And, unless you change those feelings, you are going to act as you have always acted, and you will produce the results you’ve always produced.
It is our limiting emotions that prevent us from creating and maintaining the lives that we choose. We abdicate our decision-making ability to them. We even imagine that our emotions can dictate to us who we are supposed to be. This is made apparent in our use of language. Have you ever said to someone, “I am angry,” or, “I am sad”? When we speak like this, we are saying to those around us and to ourselves, without realizing it, that we are our anger, or we are our grief. We relate to others and ourselves as though we are our feelings. In fact, we even invent whole stories of why we feel the way we feel in order to justify or explain this misperception of our identity.
It is not that feelings don’t occasionally appear to be justified. It’s just that feelings are only feelings; feelings are not who we are—and we can easily let them go. Choosing to let them go frees us to perceive what is actually here, and to act, or refrain from acting, accordingly. This translates into an ability to handle life: to make stronger, clearer choices. It allows you and me to act in ways that support us in achieving our goals and aspirations, as opposed to sabotaging them. I have seen the process of letting go of the emotions grow into an ability to have more money, better relationships, more radiant health and physical well-being, and an ability to be happy, calm, and focused, no matter what is going on around us.
If you’ve tried mental techniques, you know that it is very difficult to create a change. It requires massive energy and focus. It’s a hard thing to do! But releasing operates on the feeling level. It’s easy.
You can “let go” of years of mental programs and accumulated feelings in just seconds using The Sedona Method’s unique techniques. There are no complicated processes or reprogramming or affirmations to plaster all over your computer-screen. When an unwanted feeling comes up, you release it. That’s it. With the limiting feeling out of the way, you are free to create any result you desire, whenever you want. I know there are a lot of people out there trying to sell a lot of programs (I’ve tried many of them myself).
I can be as honest and as sincere with you as possible, and I am, but my words mean nothing unless this program works for YOU. In short, The Sedona Method will show you how to enjoy living a happier, more productive, more satisfying, more loving and joyous life, even now. Because our world has changed so radically, knowing how to let go is a critical survival skill that we all need in order to maintain and expand upon the life that we may have taken for granted up to now.
What do gold medalists Natalie Coughlin, Misty May-Treanor, Kerri Walsh and Michael Phelps have in common with the rest of us? No matter how hard these champions have trained, no matter how genetically well-endowed they are (and they are!), without mental strength, there’s no way any of them would have made it to the podium.
Controlling the way they think is their number one weapon—and it’s something the rest of us can do, too. When I need a bit of extra motivation and inspiration, say, when I’m about to go onstage or television, I resort to a simple visualization trick used by many Olympians: I imagine myself doing whatever it is I’m about to do—public speaking or competing in a tough race—on my best day.
When you’re about to do something challenging, it’s easy to imagine all the bad stuff that can happen—forgetting your cues or making a gaffe—the list goes on. But I don’t let myself entertain the idea of disaster. My goal is to walk in prepared, and then relax and enjoy whatever it is I’m doing, knowing I’ve done everything I can do to be successful.
I visualize that success, then move toward it and savor it. And you know what? Usually the appearance or performance feels so good once I’m into it, I really stop worrying and start doing it well! It’s easy if you want to begin today.
Core beliefs are the things we have believed for so long that it makes us who we are. Some of these beliefs can limit us and our future successes. Learn to recognize these belief systems and free yourself to your full potential!
Simple relaxation tools, such as deep breathing and relaxing imagery, can help calm down angry feelings. There are books and courses that can teach you relaxation techniques, and once you learn the techniques, you can call upon them in any situation. If you are involved in a relationship where both partners are hot-tempered, it might be a good idea for both of you to learn these techniques.
Some simple steps you can try:
Breathe deeply, from your diaphragm; breathing from your chest won’t relax you. Picture your breath coming up from your “gut.”
Slowly repeat a calm word or phrase such as “relax,” “take it easy.” Repeat it to yourself while breathing deeply.
Use imagery; visualize a relaxing experience, from either your memory or your imagination.
Nonstrenuous, slow yoga-like exercises can relax your muscles and make you feel much calmer.
Practice these techniques daily. Learn to use them automatically when you’re in a tense situation.
Cognitive Restructuring
Simply put, this means changing the way you think. Angry people tend to curse, swear, or speak in highly colorful terms that reflect their inner thoughts. When you’re angry, your thinking can get very exaggerated and overly dramatic. Try replacing these thoughts with more rational ones. For instance, instead of telling yourself, “oh, it’s awful, it’s terrible, everything’s ruined,” tell yourself, “it’s frustrating, and it’s understandable that I’m upset about it, but it’s not the end of the world and getting angry is not going to fix it anyhow.”
Be careful of words like “never” or “always” when talking about yourself or someone else. “This !&*%@ machine never works,” or “you’re always forgetting things” are not just inaccurate, they also serve to make you feel that your anger is justified and that there’s no way to solve the problem. They also alienate and humiliate people who might otherwise be willing to work with you on a solution.
Remind yourself that getting angry is not going to fix anything, that it won’t make you feel better (and may actually make you feel worse).
One of hardest things to do in life is wonder when we will meet
the love of our lives. It is expecially difficult when we have
spent alot of time improving ourselves, clearing guilty thoughts
and feeling great about ourselves…knowing that we really now
deserve it. Have you ever noticed a couple that is not getting
along at all and wondered why they get to have company and yet
you are still alone?
The reality is that you are never really alone. Patience is easy
when you are truly happy with yourself. When you have yourself
and your self respect, the company you keep couldn’t get any
better! Do you really believe that no one will notice how happy
you are? They will. Happiness, like misery, is like a virus and
will spread from person to person in which you come in contact
with. When your happiness in true…when you are content with who
you are at any given moment, patience is the easiest thing to
obtain. It happens naturally and the world is in your hands.
When you feel truly impatient and feel that love keeps passing
you by, you have not yet reached the level of contentment with
yourself required to create the love you need. The only love you
really need is the one you have for yourself. A feeling of emptiness
and urgency will lead to bad decision making. When YOU are really
all that you need to be happy, someone else will see that you are
all they need to be happy as well. I know how hard it can be…
I’ve been there too. But you have to trust me on this. Self
appreciation really worksand works everytime it’s tried. You
have to stay the course and your dreams will come true.
There’s a vast difference between “feeling depressed” and suffering from clinical depression. The despondency of clinical depression is unrelenting and overwhelming. Some people describe it as “living in a black hole” or having a feeling of impending doom. They can’t escape their unhappiness and despair. However, some people with depression don’t feel sad at all. Instead, they feel lifeless and empty. In this apathetic state, they are unable to experience pleasure. Even when participating in activities they used to enjoy, they feel as if they’re just going through the motions. The signs and symptoms vary from person to person, and they may wax and wane in severity over time.
Depression Signs and Symptoms
Clinical depression is distinguished from situational depression by length and severity
Feelings of helplessness and hopelessness
A bleak outlook—nothing will ever get better and there’s nothing you can do to improve your situation.
Loss of interest in dailly activities
No interest in or ability to enjoy former hobbies, pastimes, social activities, or sex.
Appetite or weight changes
Significant weight loss or weight gain—a change of more than 5% of body weight in a month.
Sleep changes
Either insomnia, especially waking in the early hours of the morning, or oversleeping (also known as hypersomnia).
Psychomotor agitation or retardation
Either feeling “keyed up” and restlessorsluggish and physically slowed down.
Loss of energy
Feeling fatigued and physically drained. Even small tasks are exhausting or take longer.
Self-loathing
Strong feelings of worthlessness or guilt. Harsh criticism of perceived faults and mistakes.
Concentration problems
Trouble focusing, making decisions, or remembering things.
Depression in men
Depression is a loaded word in our culture. Many associate it, however wrongly, with a sign of weakness and excessive emotion. This is especially true with men. Depressed men are less likely than women to acknowledge feelings of self-loathing and hopelessness. How is depression expressed in men? Frequently, it comes out in more “socially acceptable” forms. Anger, aggression, reckless behavior and violence, along with substance abuse, can be signs of an underlying depression. You might hear complaints about fatigue, irritability, sleep problems, and loss of interest or sudden excessive interest in work and hobbies. Even though depression rates for women are twice as high as those in men, men are a higher suicide risk, especially older men.
Depression and suicide
Depression is a major risk factor for suicide. The deep despair and hopelessness that goes along with depression can make suicide feel like the only way to make the pain go away. Suicidal individuals often give warning signs or signals of their intentions. The best way to prevent suicide is to know and watch for these warning signs and to get involved if you spot them. If you believe that a friend or family member is suicidal, you can play a role in suicide prevention by pointing out the alternatives, showing that you care, and getting a professional involved.
If you want to succeed in life, you have to be a good fighter. Why? Because you need to fight to achieve valuable things in life. While you could achieve some things without much effort, there is always a price to pay to get the valuable ones. They won’t just come to you out of thin air.
The question is: how can we be a good fighter in life? There are five things you should do.
First, you should know what you want. If you don’t even know what your goals are, there is no way you can be a good fighter. Without knowing what you want, you might end up getting the wrong things. Without knowing what you want, you might also lack the motivation you need to succeed. Just think about a runner. No matter how good a runner is, he is in a big trouble if he doesn’t know where the finish line is.
Second, you need to expect failures and prepare for them. This is important because otherwise you may get discouraged when you encounter difficulties along the way. By expecting failures, you will be able to keep your motivation high when you meet challenges. By preparing for failures, you will also be able to get around them quickly and even use them as stepping stones.
Third, you need to train yourself intensely. Just look at the athletes who are preparing for Olympics. Can they expect to get gold without intensive training? I don’t think so. Even talented athletes need intensive training to get the best results. Similarly, you need to get into intensive training in whatever field you are working on. Be discipline to improve yourself.
Fourth, you need to always do your best in every occasion. Aim to beat your past performances and break your own records. Doing this will push you to move forward and never settle down.
Fifth, surround yourself with the right people. Your journey will be much easier if you have the right people around you. Find people who can encourage you when you are down and remind you when you are wrong. Find people who can complement your skills and knowledge. Together with the right people, you will be able to achieve much more than what you can ever achieve by yourself. Applying these five tips is not easy but they will help you be a good fighter and achieve success in life.
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