Colin Martin: NLP Explained

We’re all born with the same basic neurology. Our ability to do anything in life, whether it’s swimming the length of a pool, cooking a meal, or reading a book, depends on how we control our nervous system. So, much of NLP is devoted to learning how to think more effectively and communicate more effectively with yourself and others.

 NLP believes that most of our behavior is learnt, for example you don’t see small babies with phobias of flying or self esteem issues. We learn our behaviour from our experiences and the people around us as we grow up, and this programs our brain to perceive things and to react to the world in a certain way. NLP allows you to understand what these programs are, and then reprogram them. Because our behaviour is learnt, we are able to unlearn it!

 Your brain stores all it’s experiences as pictures, sounds and feelings, if you change how your brain recognizes these experiences you can change how you respond to them. Your unconscious mind does not know the difference between what is real and what happens in your head. This means your imagination is always more powerful than your willpower. Richard Bandler himself, professes that NLP is not just about therapy. It is about education and teaching people to run their own brains.

To many people the range of applications for NLP is surprising. It seems strange that the same process can help you relate better to your loved ones, enhance your professional performance, improve your golf or tennis score, and enable you to teach your child to spell or study. When you become acquainted with this ‘technology’, there are no limits to the range of applications for NLP or the areas in your life which can benefit.

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Colin Martin: The Sedona Method

Think about it. If you FEEL powerful, then you act powerfully. If you feel sad, then you act sadly. Your feelings define how you operate in the world. And, unless you change those feelings, you are going to act as you have always acted, and you will produce the results you’ve always produced.

It is our limiting emotions that prevent us from creating and maintaining the lives that we choose. We abdicate our decision-making ability to them. We even imagine that our emotions can dictate to us who we are supposed to be. This is made apparent in our use of language. Have you ever said to someone, “I am angry,” or, “I am sad”? When we speak like this, we are saying to those around us and to ourselves, without realizing it, that we are our anger, or we are our grief. We relate to others and ourselves as though we are our feelings. In fact, we even invent whole stories of why we feel the way we feel in order to justify or explain this misperception of our identity.

It is not that feelings don’t occasionally appear to be justified. It’s just that feelings are only feelings; feelings are not who we are—and we can easily let them go. Choosing to let them go frees us to perceive what is actually here, and to act, or refrain from acting, accordingly. This translates into an ability to handle life: to make stronger, clearer choices. It allows you and me to act in ways that support us in achieving our goals and aspirations, as opposed to sabotaging them. I have seen the process of letting go of the emotions grow into an ability to have more money, better relationships, more radiant health and physical well-being, and an ability to be happy, calm, and focused, no matter what is going on around us.

If you’ve tried mental techniques, you know that it is very difficult to create a change. It requires massive energy and focus. It’s a hard thing to do! But releasing operates on the feeling level. It’s easy.

You can “let go” of years of mental programs and accumulated feelings in just seconds using The Sedona Method’s unique techniques. There are no complicated processes or reprogramming or affirmations to plaster all over your computer-screen. When an unwanted feeling comes up, you release it. That’s it. With the limiting feeling out of the way, you are free to create any result you desire, whenever you want. I know there are a lot of people out there trying to sell a lot of programs (I’ve tried many of them myself).

I can be as honest and as sincere with you as possible, and I am, but my words mean nothing unless this program works for YOU. In short, The Sedona Method will show you how to enjoy living a happier, more productive, more satisfying, more loving and joyous life, even now. Because our world has changed so radically, knowing how to let go is a critical survival skill that we all need in order to maintain and expand upon the life that we may have taken for granted up to now.

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Colin Martin: Visualize Your Performance

What do gold medalists Natalie Coughlin, Misty May-Treanor, Kerri Walsh and Michael Phelps have in common with the rest of us? No matter how hard these champions have trained, no matter how genetically well-endowed they are (and they are!), without mental strength, there’s no way any of them would have made it to the podium.

Controlling the way they think is their number one weapon—and it’s something the rest of us can do, too. When I need a bit of extra motivation and inspiration, say, when I’m about to go onstage or television, I resort to a simple visualization trick used by many Olympians: I imagine myself doing whatever it is I’m about to do—public speaking or competing in a tough race—on my best day.

When you’re about to do something challenging, it’s easy to imagine all the bad stuff that can happen—forgetting your cues or making a gaffe—the list goes on. But I don’t let myself entertain the idea of disaster. My goal is to walk in prepared, and then relax and enjoy whatever it is I’m doing, knowing I’ve done everything I can do to be successful.

I visualize that success, then move toward it and savor it. And you know what? Usually the appearance or performance feels so good once I’m into it, I really stop worrying and start doing it well! It’s easy if you want to begin today.

Colin Martin: Controlling Your Anger

Simple relaxation tools, such as deep breathing and relaxing imagery, can help calm down angry feelings. There are books and courses that can teach you relaxation techniques, and once you learn the techniques, you can call upon them in any situation. If you are involved in a relationship where both partners are hot-tempered, it might be a good idea for both of you to learn these techniques.

Some simple steps you can try:

Breathe deeply, from your diaphragm; breathing from your chest won’t relax you. Picture your breath coming up from your “gut.”

Slowly repeat a calm word or phrase such as “relax,” “take it easy.” Repeat it to yourself while breathing deeply.

Use imagery; visualize a relaxing experience, from either your memory or your imagination.

Nonstrenuous, slow yoga-like exercises can relax your muscles and make you feel much calmer.
Practice these techniques daily. Learn to use them automatically when you’re in a tense situation.

Cognitive Restructuring

Simply put, this means changing the way you think. Angry people tend to curse, swear, or speak in highly colorful terms that reflect their inner thoughts. When you’re angry, your thinking can get very exaggerated and overly dramatic. Try replacing these thoughts with more rational ones. For instance, instead of telling yourself, “oh, it’s awful, it’s terrible, everything’s ruined,” tell yourself, “it’s frustrating, and it’s understandable that I’m upset about it, but it’s not the end of the world and getting angry is not going to fix it anyhow.”

Be careful of words like “never” or “always” when talking about yourself or someone else. “This !&*%@ machine never works,” or “you’re always forgetting things” are not just inaccurate, they also serve to make you feel that your anger is justified and that there’s no way to solve the problem. They also alienate and humiliate people who might otherwise be willing to work with you on a solution.

Remind yourself that getting angry is not going to fix anything, that it won’t make you feel better (and may actually make you feel worse).

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